Just like wedding rituals and customs of different communities, Parsi wedding traditions are spread over a couple of days. In Parsi wedding also the wedding celebration is divided into three parts pre wedding rituals, wedding day rituals and post wedding rituals. Among the pre wedding rituals or customs we have Madhavsaro, which is celebrated four days before the lagan, the families of the bride and groom each plant a young tree in a pot, amidst recitation of prayers by the family priest, and place this at the entrance of their homes. This is generally a mango plant and is treated as a symbol of fertility. The plant is watered every morning till the eighth day after the wedding and then transplanted elsewhere.
On this day the groom's family visits the bride's home to present her with all kinds of gifts like clothes, jewelry, etc. This is ritual of gifting the bride is known as Adarni.The relatives, neighbors and friends are invited for a traditional meal of sev and dahi, boiled eggs and bananas. The relatives, neighbors and friends are invited for a traditional meal of sev and dahi, boiled eggs and bananas. The day before the wedding is called Supra nu Murat it is more like the mehendi and haldi ceremony of the Hindus. In this ritual four married women are given a supra each, containing paan, supari, haldi, dates and a piece of coconut.
A number of colorful and fun-filled customs are observed as a part of pre-wedding rituals in a Parsi Wedding.
Rupia Peravanu:
Rupia Peravanu marks the unofficial engagement when both the families acknowledge the acceptance of the marriage alliance. On this day, ladies from the groom's family pay a visit to the bride's house. The bride is presented with a gift of silver coins with the usual shagun. Refreshments are served and the grooms family return home. The bride's family now adds more silver coins to those presented and go to the groom's home, where this ceremony is repeated.
Madhavsaro:
Madhavsaro ceremony is observed four days before the wedding. The families of the bride and the groom each plant a young tree in a pot, amidst recitation of prayers by the family priest and place this at the entrance of their homes. This is generally a mango plant and is treated as a symbol of fertility.
Adarni:
The third day before the lagan, is regarded as the day for gift exchanging. On this day the groom's family visits the bride's home to present her with all the gifts like clothes and jewelry. The ritual is known as Adarni.
Supra nu Murat:
Supra nu Murat is close to the Hindu mehndi-haldi ceremony and is organized a day before the wedding. Carrying out the tradition, four married women are given a supra each, containing auspicious items like paan, supari, haldi, dates and a piece of coconut. While singing ritual songs, these supras are exchanged seven times among the women cross-wise, length-wise and breadth-wise.
Nahan:
Before the marriage ceremony, the bride and groom go through the Nahan ritual. This is done for the purification of the body and soul where in the family dastur symbolically bathes and purifies the man or woman. Tradition goes that after the Nahan ritual has been performed the bride and groom cannot touch any person outside the family or caste. The bride then dresses in her madhavate - the white, ornate wedding saree given by her parents, while the groom wears the traditional Parsi dagli and feta a white kurta like garment and a black cap.
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